Video Post: You Wouldn’t Want It If You Couldn’t Have It

I humbly present my first ever video post.

(If you’re reading this in your email or via RSS, you may need to click through to watch the video.)

The other day I was feeling overwhelmed and a bit deflated when I thought about one of the things I want to do.

I’m betting you’ve felt that way, too, when what you want is really different from what you have. And you have no idea how you’re going to get from here to there.

I thought I’d share with you some of what I was reminding myself.

How about you?

What would you do differently if you knew that your true desires – by virtue of the fact that you want them – were attainable?

How would it feel to know that it’s not a question of whether it’s possible to get what you want, but instead a matter of figuring out how to make it happen, one small step at a time?

Today’s comment zen:

This was (well, is) scary as hell to publish. I started out writing a post, and then decided on a whim to try it as a video instead. Had I written this piece, I wouldn’t think twice about posting it, but for some reason it feels completely different to share the same content as a video.

Please be kind. And for the love of all that is holy, do not give me video tips. Or advice about how to adopt a location independent lifestyle.

16 thoughts on “Video Post: You Wouldn’t Want It If You Couldn’t Have It

  1. Kathryn Hunter

    Yes, pushing publish on your first video is scary. (Did mine on Saturday) *hugs* and I’m so proud of you for putting this out here.

    I have a location independent life, no pitch or advice coming, I promise. Just, I know from experience, you are right, the right way to do what you want to do, whatever that is, will come to you. Your job is to be aware. Your attitude changes, your brain starts processing available information in a different way and the how and the why and sometimes even, the what show up, ready for you to access and utilize them.

    Here’s to getting what you both want and need. *clink*

  2. Patty K

    Yay you for doing your first video post!

    I totally agree with you: if there’s something we want, there’s a reason for it…and a way to make it happen. I like what you had to say about the wall becoming clearer as you approach it and really look at it. Sometimes I wonder if the whole “wall” is simply an illusion – and when we step up to it we can walk right through.

  3. Lori-Ann

    Yay! First video post!
    It’s true–starting to pay attention allows it to get really big really quick. Which is overwhelming for me.
    What *would* I do differently if I knew it was attainable? Hmm. Putting that in the coffers. Thank you!

  4. Briana

    Victoria! I’m so glad you made this video. Doubly glad (and surprised!) because my latest want is a similar kind of travel bug… some kind of adventure-filled exploring, but the details are kind of fuzzy. And I’m definitely feeling a little wobbly and uncertain about just how that might happen.

    Yay for seeing you in person, so reassuring and soothing. Thank you : )

  5. Hiro Boga

    Oh, hooray, Victoria–you published your first video post! And it’s lovely!

    I love the way you’ve linked desire to its fulfillment–that your desire holds within it its own fulfillment. And the wall isn’t really a wall at all, but a doorway into your desire.

    Well done!

    Love, Hiro

  6. Victoria Post author

    Thank you for the encouragement, everyone!

    @Kathryn – Big yes to this: “Your attitude changes, your brain starts processing available information in a different way and the how and the why and sometimes even, the what show up, ready for you to access and utilize them.”

    @Patty K – Reminds me of “there is no spoon” from the Matrix. And I agree. It’s not really a wall at all, it just feels that way from where we’re standing.

    @Lori-Ann – Can’t wait to hear what you come up with! ;)

    @Briana – Aww thanks. Wishing you simple solutions to the yeah-buts, and may they arrive quickly!

    @Hiro – Thank you! You said *exactly* what I was trying to say. So glad it came across. :)

    @Christine – Yes! Noticing is *huge*. May the voices become clear when the time is right!

  7. wing

    Wow. Congrats on your first video! Thanks for reminding me that no matter how huge a challenge we face, there will be ways to do it, be it pedestals, door, windows or ladders. Somehow when you decide to go for the unconventional route, people are so sure that you will fail. I think that’s because they are afraid of facing their inner desire. People can’t do it and they want to tell you that you can’ too. That’s why it become so essential for me to look for like-minded people online. Thanks!

  8. Sarah Marie Lacy

    I so needed this reminder today – I was starting to feel overwhelmed about raising the rest of the money to get to France (ahh, so much money!) but this is something I really want. Therefore, there must be a way. And the only thing I have to do right now is remind myself that there is a way, and look for the next step to take towards it. That’s all.

    PHEW. :)

    Thank you for reminding me of that!

  9. Tricia Karp

    Having entered a state of overwhelm in the past few weeks, after speaking a serious desire/need I have had for many years and now being willing to do what it takes to create it (without any clue of the HOW just yet), to you Victoria I say THANK YOU. Big time.

    The reminder that I wouldn’t want it if I couldn’t have it gives me just what I need right now.

    Love your truth and the way you share it in your video :)

  10. Andrew Lightheart

    Victoria, Victoriaaaaaa!

    So cool. SO cool to see you talk. Such a different experience than just having read your words. And it seems to me that I will read your words ‘better’ now, as I’ll read them in your voice!

    I particularly like the part about 3:40 when you go, ‘What it feels like to me is…’ and you drop to a deeper level/rise to a higher level/whatever and really tell us what it’s like for you. LOVED it.

    And, er, if you want and it’s right for you, MOOOORRRRE!


    ps You’ve really made me think about the wall I’m loking at . So thanks for the content too… :)

  11. C. A. Kobu

    Very nice. Very genuine. Very warm. Wholehearted. For the first time, I felt I could also overcome my fear of doing a video post and give it a courageous try. Thanks to you.

  12. Stacey

    I’ve recently discovered your site and love it! I feel that both your video post and message are super…super authentic, super courageous and super helpful. I adore being reminded “to approach desire with curiosity”. Thank you. We ARE all in this thing called life together and I am pleased to have stumbled upon your site.

  13. Yelena Kublitski

    Yay, Victoria, you did it!!!

    Love the message “When you really, truly want something, you wouldn’t want it unless it was somehow possible for you to have it”.

    Love your hair, too.

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