The Shmorian Thing-Finding Methodology

Looking back, there are a few things I wish someone could have helped me understand back when I was trying to find my Thing:

1. Even after you find your Thing, you often doubt whether you got it right.

2. The yeah-buts don’t magically stop when you find your Thing, they just protest about different stuff.

3. Finding your Thing isn’t an event, it’s a process. You’re not going to hear angels trumpeting on high or have a bunch of confetti drop from the ceiling when you’ve found it.

4. Finding your Thing is like walking at night with a flashlight. You can see only so far ahead of you. If you want to see farther away, you have to take at least one step forward. In other words, you’re going to have to step into something that interests you before you really know if it’s your Thing.

5. Your Thing is actually comprised of infinite sub-things, so even after you find your main Thing, the search continues. For example, I figured out I wanted to be a life coach, but then I needed to figure out what kind of coaching I would do. And then who my Right People are. And then what my superpowers are.

Who knows if hearing those things back then would have made a difference, but I like to think it would have. Maybe it will make a difference for you now. I definitely hope it will.

In any case, over this past weekend, I had some epiphanies about a different way to go about searching for your Thing. Or rather, some of the ideas floating around in my head gelled together in a more cohesive way.

So I’ve put together a 90-minute teleclass called Introduction to Shmorian Thing-Finding Methodology.

And because I take a no-bullshit approach to pretty much everything in my life, but especially in my coaching work, let me state something up front:

This class will not tell you what your Thing is.

No class or book can.

Rather, this class is about having ways to deal with the Yeah-Buts so you can continue to search for or explore or invest in your Thing. And ways to approach the process mindfully – scientifically, even – so that trying something that winds up not being your Thing is less devastating and still gives you valuable clues for where to look next.

And tools to help you get clear on what’s important to you, so that you can recognize your Thing when you find it.

Because, here’s one other thing I wish someone had told me:

6. The process of searching for and exploring and figuring out what your Thing is, is the richest, most challenging, oh-so-worth-it-est adventure you can have. Even the worst Thing-Finding adventure days beat the best trying-to-stuff-it-down-and-ignore-it days by a mile.

If you’re up for that kind of adventure, you can get the class details over here.

12 thoughts on “The Shmorian Thing-Finding Methodology

  1. Wulfie

    Congrats on pulling this together. It’s awesome and no dicking around! Whoot! hahaha

    I’d sign up in a heartbeat if I could. Truly. Good luck, not that you’ll need it. I just know it’ll be wonderful. Ya done good girlie!
    .-= Wulfie´s last blog ..Dreaming =-.

  2. Nathalie Lussier

    Oh. My. Goodness. Thank you SO much for writing this. I keep thinking “I’ve found my thing” and then turning around and wanting to do something else, or feeling like my thing shouldn’t be set in stone. Yet all the others “things” I want to do stem from it, so it’s not like there can truly be anything wrong with what I’ve got going on…

    Ahhh… I just exhaled after reading this. THANK YOU!
    .-= Nathalie Lussier´s last blog ..7 Reasons I have a Love / Hate Relationship with Raw Food =-.

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  4. Victoria Post author

    @Cindy – Yay! Thanks – glad you like the name.

    @Wulfie – Thanks so much for your dicking-around-free support. ;-)

    @Nathalie – You really bring up a great point…I mean, what does it really mean to have found one’s Thing? The more I learn, the more I think it has to do with the intersection of our “gifts” with what the world needs. So there’s lots of different ways to operate in the world and they’re all still part of your Thing. And then once you add our own evolution into the mix, I think our Thing is bound to evolve, too.

    @Natalia – Haha! Believe me, I wanted confetti, too. I like things to be black and white, so it’s definitely been a process of learning to trust myself and of getting comfortable with not having clear answers all the time.

  5. Sherri

    This is a great post, Victoria! I’m learning now that the Thing I’ve been looking for has been staring me in the face for so long, I’ve just been afraid to acknowledge it. And because of all those “yeah buts,” I questioned whether it was actually my Thing. This list proves to me that I am on the right track, even if it is scary to be stepping with a flashlight.
    .-= Sherri´s last blog ..The Happy Post – April 2, 2010 =-.

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  9. Saro Jane Bunting

    Hi Victoria,

    Just wanted to drop in and thank you for this post, especially point #4. I read it shortly after it was published and the flashlight metaphor has stuck with me and been so useful. I am taking a step towards ‘my thing/one of my things’ and keeping the flashlight metaphor in mind has definitely helped me short circuit a few anxiety attacks around ‘but where will I end up? and ‘should I go to school if I don’t have an exact plan?’. I have also used the metaphor when talking to people who ask about ‘the plan’ to explain my process a bit better.

    So thanks for sharing this – it has been very helpful for me!

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