The end of another year.
2008 was not easy, but there was lots of good change – I feel like I ushered some stagnation out of my life.
But now that a new year is about to happen, so many people are talking about New Year’s Resolutions.
Am I the only one who hates them? Let’s discuss…
They take me out of the present moment.
The end of the year is when people reflect on what resolutions they accomplished (or didn’t). So that means I’m looking BACK. And if I didn’t meet the goal, I’m also looking AHEAD to try to figure out if I can make it happen next time around.
I am not arguing that this is 100% bad for 100% of people. But I will say that those well-acquainted with me know it’s probably the worst thing for ME to do. I need to get better at just being, not worrying about what is coming or already gone.
I need to get better at being okay right where I am. You know, enjoying the ride instead of worrying so much about reaching the destination.
And I’m willing to bet a lot of money that I am not alone in that.
It’s all too easy to make resolutions based on Shoulds instead of things *I* really want.
I look back on past years’ resolutions and I’ve definitely made the clichÃ© ones like
- Get in shape
- Eat right
- Get organized
- Stop biting my nails
Do I want those things? Well, yes. But do I really really want them?
I think most people only do what they really truly want to do. So if I’ve not been able to accomplish those goals after years of making those resolutions, what does that say?
I’m also discovering that some of my so-called desires are more like decoys. In other words, as I begin to accomplish something that I truly want, some of the other things I thought were important to me become less so.
I’m starting to write more, and suddenly I’m willing to give up de-cluttering the house if it means I have more time to write.
They create an artificial deadline of 365 days.
This goes right back to that Creative Process thing…just as projects will be born when they’re ready, I think the same holds true for the resolutions we make because most of them are just another type of project.So what AM I going to do during this transition from 2008 to 2009? Well, I tend to be torn between acknowledging the New Year as an opportunity to “start fresh” and completely blowing it off.
You know, just treat it like any other day.
One thing I could use more of in my life, though, is gratitude, so I’ll be taking the opportunity to be grateful for 2008.
And maybe I’ll pat myself on the back a bit for some things I’ve accomplished.
Yes, I’ll probably spend a little time thinking about projects I want to work on in the coming months. But I’ll be trying to do that in a light, pressure-free, kind of way.
Unless, of course, Dec 31st turns out to be a really crappy day, in which case I will just drink more champagne.